A lot of times, we can get into ruts out of the routines that we go through in marriage. Some routines are good, but some routines can get old. Sometimes, we need help from the outside to help get us going in the creativity and connection department. As Anthony Kleon says, we must Steal Like An Artist.
I found a couple of great Apps that can help you get started via the Gottman Institute. John Gottman, Ph.D. is a leading researcher on marriage out of the University of Washington. Get on your iPhone, iPad, or tablet and in the App Store, search for "The Gottman Institute". You'll find helpful apps like "Open Ended Questions", "Give Appreciation!", and "Affection and Love Making".
Enjoy!