Sara and I are incrementally getting used to raising our first child, mostly learning from our mistakes. One of our mistakes during the first 3.5 months has been our choices during downtime. Emery, our daughter takes irregular naps during the day that range from 5 to 30 minutes. During these times, one of the mistakes we've made has been going our separate ways to do chores, read books separately, and crafts or blogging.
The difficulty with these sort of choices is that as husband and wife, we need all the connection we can get, now that we have a daughter. The other day, when Sara put Emery down to sleep, I suggested we take some time on the couch to hold each other and talk. After about 5 minutes of connecting, Emery woke up, and we were back into parenting again. We only got 5 minutes of emotional and physical connection, but it was much needed.
In the future, our plan is to do our personal things when Emery is awake since we're unable to spend one-on-one time in the first place. We can tag-team when she's awake, but we need to connect with each other when she's asleep.
Connecting with each other in the midst of Baby is so important.
(photo taken from flickr creative commons by ladyhawke365)